You are not alone. Eighty percent of women are dissatisfied with their body. Eighty percent – that is a pretty depressing statistic.
So if your in the majority, does that make it ok to hate your body? Well, let me ask you, how do you feel? Do you like hating your body? Are you happy?
Of course not – so hating your “bod” isn’t a good thing.
The Effects of Hating your Body
When you have a poor self-image, you are drained of all enthusiasm for life. Even little things like hanging out with friends are tainted with the “comparison-gremlin” who takes stock of your friends and points out how you fail to measure up to them.
And you can absolutely forget about enjoying a meal with friends, with family or even all alone. The “guilt-gremlin” monopolizes the conversation with how bad your food is, how much you are eating and how many calories you are consuming.
You have a whole host of other gremlins chattering away all day at you as well. The “your-not-good-enough-gremlin,” the “nobody-like-you-because-you-are-fat-gremlin,” and how about the all time favorite – “you-have-absolutely-no-will-power-gremlin?”
No wonder by the end of the day, you are completely exhausted and just want to flop down on the couch and drown your sorrows in a bowl of popcorn! You’ve been beaten up all day.
The Picture Perfect Body
In your mind you have an ideal image. The woman you think you should look like. Maybe it’s an actress, or maybe it’s an imaginary version of yourself – but everyone has that perfect chick in their mind.
Here’s the deal with little miss perfect – she doesn’t exist. No matter how close you get to that image, she will just move further away. You will never have slim enough thighs, a trim enough waistline or firm enough arms. Forget it!
The ideal image is a moving target. If you are not satisfied with your body now – you won’t be satisfied no matter how you mold or shape it. Perfection will always elude you.
The Secret to an Amazing Body
The secret to having an ideal body is to love your body right now – with all it’s imperfections. I know – not the answer you wanted. Sounds a bit like a cop out – doesn’t it.
Well, its time for a dose of reality. You will always want what you don’t have unless you learn to appreciate what you do have right now.
I am not sure if it’s a w0man-thing, an American-thing or a generational-thing – but whatever it is, we are trained to always want more/better/faster everything. However, you can break this vicious cycle of hating your body.
How to Stop Hating Your Body
Corny? Yep – you bet. But as they say in one of my favorite movies, the Holiday, “I am looking for a little corny in my life.” Let go of what TV commercials and magazines say you should look like. Comparing yourself to models hasn’t worked so far, so let’s try something new.
Start a Body Gratitude Journal.
Start every day by writing a few sentences about what you like about your body. Do your arms work today? Can you brush your own teeth? Can you dress yourself?
Already your body is doing things for your that thousands of people wish they still had the ability to do.
How about your health? Are you strong enough to get out of bed? Well enough to make yourself breakfast?
What about the beautiful brain of yours? Are you smart enough to hold a job? “With it” enough to get the kids off to school with everything they need?
We can go on and on – and I encourage you to do so. Every day!
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The Benefits of Loving Your Body
When you stop hating your body and start loving it instead some amazing things happen.
First off, the gremlins are forced to take a day off. Since you are not being beaten down all day, your energy soars and you have plenty left at the end of the day.
Maybe you don’t feel like flopping down on the couch. Maybe instead you feel like taking the dog for a walk, or maybe just spend a few minutes dancing around your kitchen to your favorite song.
(Highly recommend Katrina and the Waves – “Walking on Sunshine” for kitchen dancing 🙂 Just sayin’ )
Once you train your mind to look for positive things about your body, you will shift your focus from the negative to the positive and more and more positive things will come your way. You will start to enjoy meals when you focus on the positive aspects of them. You will enjoy your friends more when you focus on all the ways you are healthy like them.
It becomes a snowball of good feelings after you make the shift.
What do you need to do next?
You may start healthier routines, or eating healthier foods…or you may not. The point is, when you lift the weight of guilt and depression that comes from hating your body off your shoulders, your mood will improve. Your body will use the fuel you give it in a better way, you mind will be clearer to make different choices and your energy level will be higher to motivate you move more.
You don’t need to focus on forcing changes. Start appreciating your body and let your body draw you toward healthy changes effortlessly.
It all starts with a simple Body Gratitude Journal. Grab any notebook or if you want to have a set of journal prompts to help you along, download the guided Body Gratitude Journal by becoming a VIP Member. Either way, take steps right now to appreciate your body.